Post by staystrong on Apr 28, 2014 11:21:13 GMT -7
So I am a single mom. 2 kids. In Utah. August 2013 my son tells school Authorities he is hungry. He wanted school breakfast. DCFs comes to my house. I let them in. At this time I was on Prescription Subutex trying to wean off. I had made attempts to quit on my own and visited mental health facilitiy many times. They came in and took the kids within the hour. I went down and tested hair follicle and UA on request. Both were negative. I went to court maybe 5 days later and at that time my children were removed from THe childrens justice center. Now in foster care. I was told in court I could have a trial or just work to get them back. I felt like the court report was complete bs but the judge made it seem like the trial would be months down the road. At this point I didn't have an attorney.
I started court ordered treatment right away. This included UA's weekly and weekly classes. I got supervised visits and then unsupervised within the month. At this point I was still very confused. I felt I had no chance of getting my children back. My case worker didn't fill me in on alot. After a family team meeting they decided to give me kids back. I had some problems. I waited and the judge took forever signing that paper. If i would have known they make a decision in court I would never have gotten so nervous. I felt defeated and I used more than once. I took pills in december and had 1 dirty. I missesd classes. The judge put me in Jail as a last warning and dcfs still thought I should do reinification. I went into Jail Jan 22 and came out Feb. 17. I started my classes and testing again right away. I started seeing my kids once a week. I went to court March 5 and after seeing my kids, the case worker tells me visits are cancelled because it upsets my son to see me. It was never court ordered. The case worker tells my son" your mom is doing all she can, you need to do good and be good in school or you won't see your mom as much". The look in my boys eyes was heartbreaking. Anyway that court date the judge decided to do a permenancy hearing April 30th. That I was not stable enough. Since then I have gotten a bigger apartment and A job. I am testing clean and have not missed 1 class. I feel more equipped to handle problems in my life. I have really taken a turn in my life. At the beginning of my court ordered classes I missed at least once a week. But since Feb 17 I have not missed. At my family team meeting a few weeks ago my case worker and he supervisor stated many times because I am a single mom they fear I will relapse. They don't think I have made enough progress. They shot down any attempts I had made to prove I am doing good. The foster parents are wanting to keep my kids due to attatchment. I call my son and he wants to come home. he is 8. The judge is the once who decided to push my permenancy hearing. He didn't give me 60 days. When I go to court on wednesday..it's all up to him. Judge Johansen. I have talked to many moms who have relapsed many times, took months to get clean and were offered drug court and either never had children removed or got them back quickly. I have asked my case worker many times to staff drug court..her response always being" It's too full right now".
I am worried because of 1 man's decision my children could be taken forever. I don't beleive they should be with anybody else. At the team meeting they also made me feel guilty for wanting my children back. I know there is some pretty bad grammar here. Sorry. I am a wreck since August and you will have to excuse me. Thanks for reading.
I started court ordered treatment right away. This included UA's weekly and weekly classes. I got supervised visits and then unsupervised within the month. At this point I was still very confused. I felt I had no chance of getting my children back. My case worker didn't fill me in on alot. After a family team meeting they decided to give me kids back. I had some problems. I waited and the judge took forever signing that paper. If i would have known they make a decision in court I would never have gotten so nervous. I felt defeated and I used more than once. I took pills in december and had 1 dirty. I missesd classes. The judge put me in Jail as a last warning and dcfs still thought I should do reinification. I went into Jail Jan 22 and came out Feb. 17. I started my classes and testing again right away. I started seeing my kids once a week. I went to court March 5 and after seeing my kids, the case worker tells me visits are cancelled because it upsets my son to see me. It was never court ordered. The case worker tells my son" your mom is doing all she can, you need to do good and be good in school or you won't see your mom as much". The look in my boys eyes was heartbreaking. Anyway that court date the judge decided to do a permenancy hearing April 30th. That I was not stable enough. Since then I have gotten a bigger apartment and A job. I am testing clean and have not missed 1 class. I feel more equipped to handle problems in my life. I have really taken a turn in my life. At the beginning of my court ordered classes I missed at least once a week. But since Feb 17 I have not missed. At my family team meeting a few weeks ago my case worker and he supervisor stated many times because I am a single mom they fear I will relapse. They don't think I have made enough progress. They shot down any attempts I had made to prove I am doing good. The foster parents are wanting to keep my kids due to attatchment. I call my son and he wants to come home. he is 8. The judge is the once who decided to push my permenancy hearing. He didn't give me 60 days. When I go to court on wednesday..it's all up to him. Judge Johansen. I have talked to many moms who have relapsed many times, took months to get clean and were offered drug court and either never had children removed or got them back quickly. I have asked my case worker many times to staff drug court..her response always being" It's too full right now".
I am worried because of 1 man's decision my children could be taken forever. I don't beleive they should be with anybody else. At the team meeting they also made me feel guilty for wanting my children back. I know there is some pretty bad grammar here. Sorry. I am a wreck since August and you will have to excuse me. Thanks for reading.