Post by vlevingston36 on Mar 16, 2015 16:24:09 GMT -7
My Name is Victoria Levingston and I am looking for advice on an allegation of domestic abuse in my home. On Friday March 13, 2015 a worker from Mason County CPS came to my home. When she told me who she was I was confused because there is no reason CPS should ever come to my home. I invited her in because I have nothing to hide. She then told me that TJ, my 8yr old son, had received a white slip in school for forgetting to take his books out of the classroom, he became upset and started crying and when they asked him why he said his dad would kill him for getting in trouble at school and he would throw him across the room and throw plates at him. I laughed because I couldn't believe that anyone would actually take such a statement seriously. I know my child well and his only real worry was the possibility of not getting to play on the Xbox if he got in trouble at school. I can't even remember the last time I smacked them on the butt. They are well behaved, sweet, easy going kids and I am very proud of that. I answered her questions about my childhood and my parents. I did not grow up in an abusive or broken home. My parents have been together since they were teenagers and are the greatest people I will ever know. I explained to her that he does get a little emotional, any thought of not playing the Xbox always upsets him to the point of crying. Example: he was asked to clean the bedroom before playing and he went in the bedroom and began crying uncontrollably. We sat down with him and tried to calm him down but he kept going. We asked why he was so upset and he said, through sobs,"now you will probably skip my birthday and still say I'm 8". Where that came from, I don't know. He is a very intelligent little man with a very creative imagination. When he was five I caught him sneaking out the door. I asked where he was going to go and he said he saw a werewolf carrying a deer and wanted to see where it was going! I told him if he saw it again let me know cause I wanna see, lol.
The first day I felt insulted and degraded because I pride myself on the wonderful children I am raising and to have anybody think my home is abusive is an attack on my character. Especially coming from the school that he has attended for five years, I personally take this as a direct insult on me. To continue the insult she asked if I even have an education, I wanted to say more than you do I'm sure. When she was searching my house she said they had to make sure there weren't any "bongs" laying around, as if I hadn't been insulted enough. My children are well fed, always in school, never injured in any way, and get good grades, with one exception. On his report card they said he was failing spelling for not turning in homework, we do homework every day when they get home from school and he never brought it home. I was upset that they did not even attempt to contact me, they would have just let him fail. I learned only a week ago that they didn't have my correct phone number, even after I had given it to the school nurse and sent it in when I got a new phone last year.
I was not worried because there is nothing happening in my home. Although it was degrading to have some stranger question my parenting in front of my children and search my home, I was not afraid. After researching online, I am now getting worried because of all the articles I read where children have been taken out of homes with no danger present. One site says do not allow them to bully you and others say it is worse if you do not choose to cooperate with them. What is even worse is the fact that I do IT contract jobs for the state in the office that is now investigating me. The worker started last year when i finished my last contract so she is literally the only person in the DHHR building that I don't know. I am currently studying for a certification in order to get a fulltime position, I've worked very hard to get this far only to have false allegations steal my retirement job from me. I planned on taking the test the day she came and now I can't afford to do it for nothing. Is it true that you get put on an abuse registry when allegations are made against you? I also do Federal IT contracts, can this effect my security clearance? If they come back should I cooperate?
Please Help
The first day I felt insulted and degraded because I pride myself on the wonderful children I am raising and to have anybody think my home is abusive is an attack on my character. Especially coming from the school that he has attended for five years, I personally take this as a direct insult on me. To continue the insult she asked if I even have an education, I wanted to say more than you do I'm sure. When she was searching my house she said they had to make sure there weren't any "bongs" laying around, as if I hadn't been insulted enough. My children are well fed, always in school, never injured in any way, and get good grades, with one exception. On his report card they said he was failing spelling for not turning in homework, we do homework every day when they get home from school and he never brought it home. I was upset that they did not even attempt to contact me, they would have just let him fail. I learned only a week ago that they didn't have my correct phone number, even after I had given it to the school nurse and sent it in when I got a new phone last year.
I was not worried because there is nothing happening in my home. Although it was degrading to have some stranger question my parenting in front of my children and search my home, I was not afraid. After researching online, I am now getting worried because of all the articles I read where children have been taken out of homes with no danger present. One site says do not allow them to bully you and others say it is worse if you do not choose to cooperate with them. What is even worse is the fact that I do IT contract jobs for the state in the office that is now investigating me. The worker started last year when i finished my last contract so she is literally the only person in the DHHR building that I don't know. I am currently studying for a certification in order to get a fulltime position, I've worked very hard to get this far only to have false allegations steal my retirement job from me. I planned on taking the test the day she came and now I can't afford to do it for nothing. Is it true that you get put on an abuse registry when allegations are made against you? I also do Federal IT contracts, can this effect my security clearance? If they come back should I cooperate?
Please Help
